You can’t motivate someone who can’t hear you. If what you’re saying is bouncing off their psychological armor, it makes little difference how good you are at saying it, you are not being heard. Your people have to hear you to be moved by you. In order for someone to hear you, they must first […]
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Some coaches make themselves available to clients between sessions and some do not. Your coaching practice system on this is yours to create! My clients can email me between calls and get a short, spot call of 15 minutes if something important comes up between sessions. But I want to get an agreement ahead of
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As leaders, we have encouraged or permitted the dysfunctional duality (separateness) of a workplace and a home place; and team members with a “work-life” and a “rest of life.” It sounds counterproductive and inefficient and confining, just saying it aloud. And, of course there are no instructions about the boundaries: It’s, “You’ll know when you
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This was the report from ESPN on the Buffalo and the Cincinnati Bengals game on Monday night: “In a chilling scene, CPR was administered to Bills safety Damar Hamlin on the field for multiple minutes after he collapsed following a play in the first quarter. He received oxygen, according to the ESPN broadcast, as he
MNF: Life & Death in the Balance–No Adults in the Room Read More »
Last year, we published The Well-Being Bucket List: 29 Mindful Choices for Older Adults. It is a sort of written podcast of conversations in which we explore possibilities for living that, if chosen, could better serve our well-being (and that of those around us) each day, perhaps for the rest of our lives. (We are
Ten Mindful Choices for Greater Well-Being Now, and Later Read More »
Our book, The Well-Being Bucket List: 29 Mindful Choices is a sort of written podcast of twenty-nine conversations between us in which we explore possibilities for living that could better serve our well-being (and that of those around us) each day. One of our favorite conversations unpacked the meaning underlying the quotation from Pierre Teilhard
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Psychiatrist: “Do you hear any voices in your head?” Voice: “Tell her no.” Patient: “No.” There has been a theme this year about the difference between “doing” and “being.” In short form, doing as in “action,” and being as in “showing up as the authentic you.” I’ve seen opinions about the importance of our “doing”
I Decided to Give My “Life Narrator” the Boot Read More »
Co-authoring two recent books and tag teaming on leadership, coaching, and life posts with my friend and colleague Will Keiper has been a major factor in my decision not to retire from my career, just yet. I was all set to watch sports, play my guitar and laze around with family for a “living” when
This Coach Inspires Me Read More »
When I was a rising leader, a moment would come when the “boss” would say, “My gut says that we should [fill in the blank].” When I heard those words, I knew whatever the discussion process had been to that point, was over. Everyone else had just been taken off the hook for the decision.
Intuitive Leadership: Much More Than “Gut Feel” Read More »
I was the shadow of the waxwing slain, By the false azure in the windowpane; I was the smudge of ashen fluff -and I- Lived on, flew on, in the reflected sky. ~Vladimir Nabokov (Pale Fire) As my talented editor, Chris Nelson, and I were selecting the short pieces of writing for my latest book,
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